Privacy and Your Blog-Ten Things To Think About

On Saturday, I had my first speaking engagement at Bloggy Boot Camp in San Francisco.  I was going to do this whole elaborate presentation with Powerpoint and all of the bells and whistles.  I decided to do a handout and speak/storytell about the subjects that I outlined.  I stumbled a little here and there, and I may have talked a little too fast at times. But, I think it went over pretty good and I got my points across.  I have had some great feedback and e-mails already, but I wanted to share my outline in a post.

AJM BBC SFPhoto by modchik

PRIVACY and YOUR BLOG
Privacy, tracking visitors, and more about keeping your personal info personal, while still blogging authentically.

TEN TIPS TO REMEMBER WHEN THINKING
OF YOUR PERSONAL PRIVACY

1.   Real Names

  • Do you use your real name? Last name?
  • Do you use your family member’s names?
  • Do you use examples of people you know (IRL) In Real Life on your blog?
  • Do you have permission to use this information?

2.   Location

  • Do you talk about where you live? Actual city, state?
  • Do you talk about vacations, events, before you go to them?
  • Do you use location based web applications?
  • Twitter, Whrrl, Foursquare

3.   Blog Tracking Programs

  • Do you have a stat tracking program installed on your site?
  • Google Analytics, StatCounter, Sitemeter
  • Have you ever tracked an IP address?
  • Do you know how to track and IP address?
  • Previous comments, IP tracking sites

4.   Photographs

  • Do you post pictures of your family? Your kids? Your house? Your neighborhood?
  • Do you watermark your photos?
  • Do you post “birthday party” or event pictures with other kids in them?

5.   Content

  • What is too personal?
  • Search engines and your content?
  • When you hit “publish” it is there forever, sometimes even if you delete

6.   Facebook

  • Do you have privacy settings “set” on your account?
  • How do you select and approve “friends”?

7.   Domain Registrations

  • Do you have your own domain(s)?
  • Are they registered private?
  • Check Who Is?

8.   Cyber Stalkers and Trolls?

  • Do you have a troll/stalker policy?
  • Have you ever had a troll problem?
  • How far would you let it go?

9.   Comments

  • At what point do you close comments?
  • Have you ever closed comments?

10.  Telling People About Your Blog

  • Have you told family, friends, co-workers, playdates?
  • Do you regret people knowing or telling them?
  • Have you had negative experiences because of it?

I may or may not do all of these things.  These are just some good points to think about when you are blogging.  After blogging for three years, my thoughts on some things have changed.  I have loosened up in some areas, and I have totally locked down others.  What ever you choose to do with your privacy and your blog is your opinion, and only yours. Because really, it is your blog.

44 comments
Carpool Goddess
Carpool Goddess

Awesome list! So much to learn!

Julie {Angry Julie}
Julie {Angry Julie}

Thanks!!! There is a lot to think about. But if you have some sort of personal policy, it will help you in the long run with blogging.

liz
liz

No, I do not know how to track an IP addy. Do you have a post on how to do so? Thanks!

Barb
Barb

Julie, Hi! I'm relatively new to blogging, January of this year, and I sure have a lot to learn! I sure wish that you'd post your presentation on your blog, so that I could learn more about what your outline mentioned! Barb

Angry Julie
Angry Julie

Barb, I had a ton of things that I told about my personal life when speaking hence why I left them out. I think that outline is a good starting point to check what items you are most concerned about. Feel free to e-mail me at: angryjuliemonday@gmail.com if you have specific questions or concerns.

Megan (Best of Fates)
Megan (Best of Fates)

I couldn't attend San Fransisco Bloggy Boot Camp, as I'm already signed up for Philly, but I heard your presentation was great, so thanks for sharing some of it here!

Morgan B.
Morgan B.

Thanks so much for providing this information. I have been thinking so much more about privacy lately- sparked by a fellow blogger using Foursquare, which gave the exact location of the Starbucks she was at. It kind of freaked me out. Definitely something to think about. I'm bummed I missed the convention. I hope you speak at the next one I attend!

Amy
Amy

are you going to do this same training at St George? I would love to to hear what you have to say. There are so many things on your list that I've been curious about.

Angry Julie
Angry Julie

I'm just going to be an attendee at St. George and maybe take some photos. If you ever want to hear my side of things just let me know. We can have a phone conversation, Skype, or St. George.

Sandy H
Sandy H

Thanks for posting this!! Very good things to remember to think about- especially since I just started blogging! Congrats on your presentation- I hate public speaking and much prefer writing!

Natalie
Natalie

There are several things listed here that I've been thinking about lately. I need to do some more research. Are you going to be speaking at the SD Boot Camp in March?

Angry Julie
Angry Julie

I might be attending BBC in San Diego, but I'm not sure about speaking, etc...

Ash
Ash

Great things to remember. I used to blog under a pseudo, absolutely no photos, no names, etc. I "came out" in April. That is, a shorterned version of my name, plus a face shot, but other names, specifics are still not mentioned. I'm only semi paranoid now :-). Any chance you'll be in Austin?!

Angry Julie
Angry Julie

I would love to be in Austin, but I have attended too many events this year and I think my husband would kill me if I attended another blogging event.

TerriAnn
TerriAnn

I really appreciated that you validated the fact that we cannot trust EVERYone. We feel a bit safe among 'mom' blogs but it doesn't mean that only moms read them, or that they are sane. As a personal choice, I have decided not to post my daughter's name or any pictures of her. I may be scrutinized as 'silly' but I feel it's our way of protecting her.

Steph
Steph

I only wish I would have been there to see it in person. And to watch you eat hot wings.

Angry Julie
Angry Julie

I know...we always have St. George. You would have enjoyed watching me eat hot wings in my leopard print dress and red heels...just sayin'

Andrea Fellman
Andrea Fellman

Wow - I hadn't thought a lot about some of those on the list, you make me a little nervous..;)

Angry Julie
Angry Julie

I'm glad I made you nervous...I'm so mysterious like that.

Mama Mary
Mama Mary

Did I really just have an exclamation point at the end of every sentence? I guess I'm really excited tonight! At least I didn't use all caps. You would've heard me from up there.

Angry Julie
Angry Julie

I have a problem with over-using the exclamation point too!!! It blame it on my ADD...

Mama Mary
Mama Mary

Great tips in there girl! Wish I could've been there to see the presentation live! Get your booty to SD!

Jennifer-Eighty MPH Mom
Jennifer-Eighty MPH Mom

This is a great post - and these are definitely good points. I'm sure you did a fab job at Bloggy Bootcamp. I'd be incredibly nervous. Thanks for these tips!

Simone
Simone

That is a really interesting bunch of points about privacy. Something to think about. I use my own real first name (but not last name) I use nicknames for my kids, husband and where needed, their friends. Many of my RL family and friends read my blog. I don't mind. It keeps me honest. I say where I live in terms of city and country. I don't have a link to my facebook page from my blog (but FB friends can access my blog from FB. I do put birthday party photos up, but all my friends know that if they come to my parties they end up on "the Blog" I do not identify their kids by name. I spotted this on twitter and thought I'd have a look. Fo some reason your links are showing up invisible. Not sure if it's meant to look like that or if its a malfunction (at my end or yours??) thanks! regards Simone xx

Angry Julie
Angry Julie

My links are light in color, but they look different on each different internet browser.

Lindsey (aka modchik)
Lindsey (aka modchik)

I smiled at the irony of your speaking topic and the "recently visited" widget on your blog. You always know when stalker is around now :) ha ha! I posted the pic of you presenting on my Flickr BBC set! Hope you like it! Nice job BTW, great information thanks for sharing your pears of wisdom you are a valuable resource to BBC!

Lindsey (aka modchik)
Lindsey (aka modchik)

or PEARLS of wisdom... oh I love what hours of editing pics does to the brain!

Angry Julie
Angry Julie

ALL I could think of was those Pearl Tampons when I saw this...#editingphotostoo....

Miri
Miri

You were GREAT Julie! And this is such an important topic, as other commenters have already said. Thank you for sharing your wisdom with all of us!

Theresa
Theresa

I struggled with using my daughters name all the time! I just recently started using it. Though I'm still not sure. ARGH! All the people I talk about it in real life do give me permission to write about them in my blog. I've also made sure that any address connected with my blog is my husbands office address. This was a GREAT post!!!

Erin @ Blue-Eyed Bride
Erin @ Blue-Eyed Bride

We post our names and our town-- not our address. I don't post pictures or stories about people we know IRL without getting their permission. I always ask first and rarely even post photos of them. But I have a handful of trolls and stalkers that won't go away and always seem to be out to make life difficult. Fortunately, I also have their addresses thanks to IP address tracking. I'm interested in what a troll/stalker policy is? Can you explain more?

Sarah
Sarah

The problem with this is that you probably don't really have their address because of static IP's, anonymouse, and the fact that almost all East coast users are routed through a server in Herndon, VA or nearby. So a user in Atlanta could really be in Macon, or even Florida. Frustrating!

SarahD
SarahD

Wanna hear something really funny? Someone else used my email address and posted under my name here. And I got the reply. "Super awesome security for the win!!!"

Angry Julie
Angry Julie

It is frustrating, but many people make the mistake of commenting anonymously when they have commented under their real name/website before, which is trackable...

Mojito Maven
Mojito Maven

REALLY really wish I could have been present for this! I deal with this stuff ALL DAY LONG. I am semi-anonymous, have had my fair share of stalkers and trolls, and get burnt out so easily.

julie@my5monkeys
julie@my5monkeys

what a great talk and so great to meet you finally and now you know both sisters.

Alana Morales
Alana Morales

This is FANTASTIC!! There are too many mom bloggers who don't think about these things and post their kids names, tweet with their location and other such things. They need to take a moment to think about the repercussions of what they are posting.

Holly L
Holly L

Julie- Your presentation was great...I do some of this and some I do not do and some of these things I never even considered. Definitely gave me some things to think about! Thanks. Holly

Everyday Kathy
Everyday Kathy

Thank you so much for this post and for your contribution at Boot Camp. You gave me a lot to think about! I liked this post up over on my Everyday Mommy blog where I'm also hosting a Bloggy Boot Camp Post Link-Up opportunity. Stop on by when you get the chance! I'm looking forward to seeing all your photos!

Lana
Lana

Thanks for posting this. I use first names on my blog mainly because I tried the nickname thing and kept screwing it up and forgetting. I do need to figure out the watermark thing.

AdriansCrazyLife
AdriansCrazyLife

Good topic. I struggle with this one as I am a very open person and I honestly don't think I'm interesting enough for someone to want to stalk me, but I do take some sensible precautions. I don't put my last name or where I work on my blog. My name is probably unique in all the world and someone would be able to pinpoint me in 2.5 seconds, and my (very large & recognizable) company has very strict internet policies, so I don't want to be on their grid. Other than that, I don't worry too much about my on-line privacy.

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