The Preferred Parent

The Preferred Parent

Do you see this bonding? This goes on all day and night.  Angry Husband is the preferred parent.  I’m the one that takes care of things.  I’m the one to find the backpack, pack the lunch, RSVP for a birthday party, go buy the present, do the laundry, etc. until midnight every night.

I’m not making this up. Even my parents have noticed.  My mom has mentioned more than ever, that Angry Kid is a total daddy’s boy.  It is all about D-A-D-D-Y.  I don’t play the video games or watch Star Wars.  Seriously, it must be genetic for males to watch movies over and over and over.  I think I’ve seen enough Star Wars and Clone Wars for a lifetime.

Tonight, it was the coin game. I had to go online to even see what game it was, Coin Push Frenzy.  Yes, they are a little obsessed.  They also play Plants Vs. Zombies and Tap Fish.  I have games on my iPhone, but the only reason I have them is for Angry Kid to play them.

Angry Kid cries when Angry Husband leaves the house to go to work, the store, out with his friends, and even the damn mailbox.  When I leave the house, I get a wave and a “Bye Mama”. Daddy is King.

I’m ok with it though, because one of the moms at kindergarten was volunteering the other day, and told me that Angry Kid was talking about me.  Angry Kid told her that “his beautiful mom (ME ME ME) was also volunteering every Monday and she wore a beautiful shirt on Monday.”  I have to admit that Angry Kid does have good taste, the shirt was from Anthropologie, and it was might pricey.

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19 comments
jodifur
jodifur

How funny, I wrote a similar post a while ago. I wonder if it is something about only boys? Because my son would rather be with my husband than anyone in the world.

Angry Julie
Angry Julie

Yes, my son is almost surgically attached to my husband. It is ridiculous.

The Mrs.
The Mrs.

Landon loves his Daddy too. I am second Banana!

Lee-Ann
Lee-Ann

Awww, it is so cute he was talking about you at school! Audree-Ann is a Daddy's Girl & totally prefers him over me. At least I have the other 2 that are attached to me, so a Mommys boy & girl!

Dee
Dee

I have 4 kids and they all prefer dad over me. I take care of the laundry and do most of the running around, but my kids can talk to their dad about anything and he is listens to them and gives them what they need, so I think it is a good thing that you boy has this relationship with his dad.

Mama Mary
Mama Mary

You have the sassiest ensembles ever! And, my kids call for their daddy and it makes me a little crazy.

MamaOnDaGo
MamaOnDaGo

I'm not only the preferred parent, but I'm also the one who has to organize the bags, gets things ready for the next day, etc. It's difficult to do when you have 2 children either attached to you or following you around. Angry Kid loves you. The expensive Anthropologie shirt was worth the raves.

Morgan B.
Morgan B.

I feel that way about my oldest daughter. She bosses me around all day and then throws herself into my husband's arms the second he walks in the door. But, in the middle of the night, when she wakes up scared or with a fever- it's mommy to the rescue. When she falls down and scrapes her knee, only mommy can make it better. Sure, maybe it's only in her times of weakness that she "needs" me, but I'll take what I can get. :)

Emily
Emily

My four-year-old son is still a mama's boy, but I do dread the day he switches alliances. I think girls grow up to be close to their moms and boys to their dads. That's one reason I'm nervous about having a son, him leaving me for my husband and the two of us losing our bond.

Megan
Megan

Im loving that AK told everyone about his "beautiful mom is volunteering" I think thats super sweet and totally makes up for the lack of affection all the other times. And be thankful you can get things done around your house. I get (from my little one) "up mom, up" and "come sit wif me, on couch" all day long. which is swell except for the whole cooking, cleaning, laundry thing...

Molly
Molly

I swear our kids alternate just to kind of mess with us. Just when we get used to being the preferred parent, they switch it up on us.

Amanda
Amanda

My oldest has preferred Daddy from the very beginning. He has ALWAYS preferred Daddy. This presents a problem when Daddy a soldier and sometimes it isn't Mommy he wants. It's always inevitable that when my husband is gone, I will have feelings of wanting to duct tape my oldest to a wall. When Daddy comes home, all is right with the world again.

Kristen
Kristen

Aaagh! that has to be so frustrating!!

bwsf
bwsf

I once read that for a time, the father will be the favorite, and for a time, the mother will be the favorite, and it's got nothing to do with what we do or don't do. I try to remember that. Sometimes I think kiddo prefers daddy because daddy's not around as much and he just misses him.

Rachel {at} Mommy Needs a Vacation
Rachel {at} Mommy Needs a Vacation

YES- watching movies over and over and over is genetic for males. My husband has seen The Big Lebowski a thousand times and knows all the words. I too hold a special place in my heart for Anthropologie shirts! :-)

Tiaras & Tantrums
Tiaras & Tantrums

oh here are a couple of more games to suggest - you will rock for it! Shakes & Fidget - my son LOVES this game! Also, Tibia - although I think your son may be a bit young for this one! But your hubs will love it!

Stephanie S
Stephanie S

This will sound a little weird, because I don't have children yet but DO have a housecat that I totally humanize... he picks my husband over me every time. He will not cuddle me! He just meows at me when he needs food, water, or a clean litter box. But he'll jump on his human dad's lap for loving all the time!

Tractor Mom
Tractor Mom

I know the feeling! My little one is a Daddy's boy too. He cries for Daddy every time he walks out the door--I mean screaming, crying!! Last night I found Hamp crying, waiting for Daddy at the door! I guess I just don't have enough facial hair... Come by when you finish the laundry....