I Was That Mom

With the crowds dying down a little, we’ve been using our Disneyland Season Passes more lately. Sometimes we’ve gone two to three times each week. But you can do that, when you live fifteen minutes away.

Last Thursday, my mom and I took Angry Toddler to Disneyland. We got there around 5pm. The park closed at 9pm. When we go to Disneyland, we let Angry Toddler make all of the ride choices. After all, it’s his gig, let him pick. We went on The Jungle Cruise, The Haunted Mansion, and It’s a Small World. He danced in Tomorrow Land. He got a Buzz Lightyear toy. Gotta love that birthday certificate that he received in May. I still had $20 left on it.

And then…it was time to leave.

We were walking down Main St. We peeked through the store windows as usual. Because there’s no way we were going to actually take him in the store. This kid wants anything and everything. But he didn’t even beg for a balloon like he usually does. Shocking, because now they even have Mickey-head shaped balloons that light up.

We hit almost the end of Main St. We are right by the Emporium. And then we have the “sit down”. As a parent, you should know the sit down, by now. Where out of nowhere, their body goes limp, and they just sit down. The tears start to roll down. They become dead weight. He was fine two minutes ago. So I ask him, “what’s wrong?” The tears and sniffles start. He replied, “I want to go on one more ride. I don’t want to leave.” I point to the crowd storming down Main St. and I nicely tell him, “Disneyland is closing soon. See everyone around us. They are leaving too. It’s time to go home. And we are going on one more ride, the tram to the parking lot.” He gets up and slowly starts walking. We go over to the Emporium because I wanted to look at the Halloween goodies. I should have known better. He lost it again by the sucker display. And this is what he had to say. “I NEVER get suckers, I NEVER get ANYTHING”. Yea ok, I believe you had a churro about 30 minutes ago.

He turned into a limp bowl of jelly again. They my mom tried to pick him up. She even tried the under the armpit carry. My kid is heavy. He’s like almost 45 pounds at 4 years old. He doesn’t look that big, but the kid is solid. She couldn’t get him up. I could see the anxiety starting. We finally made it out of the store and onto the tram. He sat down on the floor and would not sit on the seat. I was trying to fold the stroller and get onto the tram myself. My mom was persuading him to get up. He was not budging. So I then became that mom, at the “Happiest Place on Earth” in front of all the tourists. I screamed, “Sit up, sit up now. You will sit on the seat. The tram is leaving. Do you want it to leave without you? Because it will. Then you will have to walk back to the car.” I said a few more words too, don’t judge me, we’ve all been there. He finally got up. Once again, the tears were flowing. We made it to the car. Mr. Cranky was super tired, we get that. Yet the week before, we left Disneyland at 11pm. He was fine.

I got home and posted this as my Facebook Status:


I got (5) likes and 12 comments on that Facebook status. They were some of my favorite comments. Because as a parent, I think we’ve all BEEN THERE.

Lisa-”I know that look well…from the receiving end, of course.”

Ruth-”I was that parent Feb 7, 2007 by the Pirates of Caribbean.. It was so horrible that date is etched in my mind.. I feel for you!”

Robin-”I was that parent last September at Walt Disney World. Food court in Land pavilion- sorry if I scared anyone! Someone decided to pitch a total melt down fit over……….Cheetos. I feel for you Julie!”

Amy-”End of July 2009 at 11:56pm…ALL the way down Main St…but mine was a 10 year old…that looks like she is 15. Good times.”

I’ve had many moments like this as a parent of a four year old. I will have many more. Thankfully, I know that all the other parents out there understand. You’ve been there, done that, and will do it again!
64 comments
Marie Cole
Marie Cole

Well I am with your son, why do you have to leave the happiest place on earth? ;)))

Tracie
Tracie

I have been there on more than one occasion...in Disney World. Yep...the other parents stare at you like you are from another planet and I just want to say to them, "oh your kid is nice and quiet right now, but I know that this has happened to you before so stop judging me!"

Angelica
Angelica

I hate it when that happens! and feeling bad about it afterwards, sometimes we just have to be that parent!

Lourie
Lourie

Been there done that, and I am sure to do it again. Happy SITS day!!! PS I grew up in Orange County

Simply Me
Simply Me

I guess being a parent can be tough sometimes ..i cant imagine how i shall handle it when my turn comes but i do salute my parents for bringin us up so well :)

joann mannix
joann mannix

I was that parent, many times over. I'd rather be that parent, then the parent who ignores the screaming child. I want to wrap my hands around the neck of that parent.

Imogen
Imogen

That's what you get for taking them out on a fun day, huh? Well, at least the whole tantrum gave you top notch material for both FB and the blog, right? :P Best of luck with remaining civil, on a day-to-day basis ;)

zeemaid
zeemaid

hoo boy, I think we've all been that mom/dad. Kids really know how to push our buttons.

cheri
cheri

i'm starting to be THAT parent now, and i'm also starting to dread the coming days. but i guess we all have to pass that stage, so i just bite my lip and power through. happy SITS day :)

La Jolla Mom
La Jolla Mom

Dude, I feel like I'm that parent almost every day. We skipped the terrible two's and somehow are on the terrible three's. Always happens at an amusement park too.

Heidi Walker
Heidi Walker

You have to be that parent everyonce in a while. Discipline sometimes comes in a loud public display. Congrats on being the Mom willing to look like a jerk.

Melissa
Melissa

Hahaha! File it in the archives! 'That Mom' falls into two categories. We've all seen That Mom who goes crazy on her kids and everyone around her for apparently no reason in a scary tyrannical outburst. Then there's the other Mom who's kids are acting out so badly, she better go postal on their little behinds or risk looking like an asinine push over. The one to avoid is the former. Congratulations, crazy town avoided : ) I'm over from Sits. Love your blog!

Bethany
Bethany

Oh lawd! I bet he passed out as soon as he got home.

Tiffany
Tiffany

Every time that happens to me, I just remember that I'm not the only one!

Mommie Daze
Mommie Daze

Oh, we all lose it now and then. Don't feel bad. I always say it's funny that they call it the happiest place on earth, because it seems like there's a lot crying that goes on there.

Angry Julie
Angry Julie

Yes, I see lots of crying at Disneyland. I feel bad for other parents because I know, I've been there.

Melissa @CelluliteInvestigation
Melissa @CelluliteInvestigation

Disney must be so overwhelming for kids (and kids' parents). I'm impressed at parents who even make the attempt to enjoy Disney with their kids. That's an accomplishment in and of itself.

bluecottonmemory
bluecottonmemory

Everybody is that mom sometimes because children get tired and just fall apart at all the wrong places. How fun to live 15 minutes from Disney! That would be so much fun! Congrats on your SITS day to shine!

Angry Julie
Angry Julie

It's really great to live 15 minutes away. We just head on over to Disneyland when it's warm outside and need something to do. I love people watching there too. Thanks for stopping by on my SITS day!

Jennifer
Jennifer

As someone without children I can tell you I much prefer THAT parent to the one that just ignores their kid and lets them run around a store, pulling things off shelves and screaming without ever saying a word to them. I can't imagine how hard being a parent is!

Angry Julie
Angry Julie

Yea, I never want to be that parent. Even as a parent I still watch and stare at people whose kids do that. I admit it. That's why I freak when my kid does that.

Karen & Gerard Zemek
Karen & Gerard Zemek

I'm not a parent but do feel for those who are that this happens to. I give you credit actually for getting your child to sit on the seat and not giving in to him. Parenting is the hardest job in the world, but also the most rewarding. Congrats on your SITS day!

Fiona
Fiona

I'm that parent every time we go grocery shopping!

Angry Julie
Angry Julie

I'm glad that I'm not the only one. Somewhere on my blog, I wrote a post about the grocery store. I HATE grocery shopping and my husband and I fight about it all the time.

Laura in Cancun
Laura in Cancun

Not a mom myself, but I won't be quick to judge after hearing that story! Good job being firm.

Sandi
Sandi

Stopping by from SITS. Bless your heart.. we've all been that parent, and I guess it never changes. My son is 23, graduated from college, back at hom while looking for a job, and I sometimes find myself "that mom" - fortunately, not very often. He's a good guy

Angry Julie
Angry Julie

Awww that's soo nice to hear that. I think it's much tougher to be a recent college graduate right now that it was in the late 90's when I was graduating. The job market is so tough right now. Wish your son luck for me.

BlissfulBabe
BlissfulBabe

Oh boy. I've had one or two of those days, myself. It's still really nice to hear that other moms go through it, too, and that you *really aren't* the evil mother you thought you were. They all eventually get over it and never think a thing of it. :) That's the joy of motherhood. :P

Angry Julie
Angry Julie

LOL, yes...every mother I know has gone through this. I think that people sometimes like to keep it a secret though.

Mama Mary
Mama Mary

I have had these moments. A few times at LEGOLAND since we're 15 minutes away we go almost every week. Feel your pain and know it well.

Babe_Chilla
Babe_Chilla

Stopping by from SITS! I feel for you. I am SO going to be this mom sometime soon I just KNOW it. I think anyone who looks at you sideways needs a kick in the shins. I mean, EVERY single parent or caretaker has had THAT moment. Probably more than once.

Hear Mum Roar
Hear Mum Roar

I never judge, because I know that next week it'll be me and my little angel having our moment, lol!

Renee
Renee

“I NEVER get suckers, I NEVER get ANYTHING”. Just several trips a week to Disneyland! :-) Every parent has been "that parent" unless those parents were really, really, really lucky.

T
T

Good morning from SITS! As a single mom, I've been there too many times. Cut yourself some slack and just forgetaboutit.....he will (and probably already has!).

S Club Mama
S Club Mama

Yeah, we've never been to Disneyland but we did have a meltdown in the library yesterday. A man (I'm assuming that's a dad) was laughing quietly at us. I thought it was kind of funny, too. :)

Scary Mommy
Scary Mommy

I have never been to Disney and dread it for that very reason. When I finally make it, it's not going to be pretty. At all.

Cristin
Cristin

When my kids pull the "sit down" I just shrug and walk away, they always fully believe that I'm going to abandon them and chase after me.

Cassie
Cassie

I love this post and will so post it on facebook the next time my son meltdown on me!

ResourcefulMommy
ResourcefulMommy

You don't even want to know how I do Disney. I'll tell you anyway. I write down the order of the rides on a legal pad, which I carry around the park. We never wait in line more than 15 minutes, and we ride some things twice in a row with no wait. However...I win crazy mommy of the year (and I still have to yell occasionally, Disney or no).

The Mrs.
The Mrs.

Holy Moly. Yes, I have been that Mom, but not yet at the happiest place on earth. Maybe that's why we haven't taken him yet!!!

WPMomOf2 (jen)
WPMomOf2 (jen)

We were supposed to go to WDW for Mimi's breakfast tomorrow...but with Tommy just getting home from teh hospital, we have postponed. Damn it--I had to make the breakfast reservations 3 months ago--and they are booked up for weeks :(

Nap Warden
Nap Warden

Uhhhh...yeah, I was there today at The Farm in the Zoo. No fun:P Serves us right for being nice to them;)

Fragrant Liar
Fragrant Liar

Honey, it's just starting. I'm witnessing the angry young cannibals in our house from a nana's perspective now. When my daughter yells at her kids, after finally losing it, after giving them just enough rope to hang themselves, I think, no way would I go back there. No freakin' way.

Shannon
Shannon

No judgment here! ;) btw... since you seem to know a lot about Disneyland... when is the BEST time of year to go there? We are not from there, of course, but are planning a trip back soon. Last time we went in February, which was pretty great, but it did get rainy one night. I just want to know when we aren't going to be waiting 3 hours for rides AND the weather will "probably" cooperate! THANKS! ;)

jennster
jennster

next time my son and i go there, I'M going to do the sit down. I'M not going to move and see what HE does! ha

AirborneVet
AirborneVet

So far, 95% of the time I have been "that parent", I get thumbs up from other parents who witness it. Also, my family is going on a Disney cruise in two weeks. I will be sure to have at least one incident like that, probably more. My toddler turns 3 tomorrow and he has many tantrums. My own mother laughs at this because I was just as bad, if not worse than my son. I remember many times I did the kicking and screaming on the ground thing. My mom is getting her revenge.

Brittany
Brittany

Oh yes I hate when I have "that mom" moment. When I take my three kids in public and they are just exhausted and decide to melt down - I curse myself for knowing better!!!

Amanda
Amanda

My 8yo has perfected turning me into "that parent" into an art. I truly believe it's his favorite sport to see how much I can take before my head spins and I spew pea soup. Yep, we've all been there.

babyrocasmama
babyrocasmama

I am "that parent" almost daily. LOL My 4 year old is very challenging. She is smart, funny, imaginative and sanity robbing all rolled into one. Unfortunately, in this society, you cannot discipline your kids in public without angry stares or someone, inevitably thinking you are being abusive.I feel your pain. I have been there more than you know. I did name my blog Last Shreds Of Sanity for a reason! LMAO